My Thoughts On Being A Chaplain’s Wife For The First Six Months

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What have I learned about being a chaplain’s wife? Well, first and foremost, I’m still just trying to learn to be a wife. There is a ton to learn and so much I will continue to learn the longer we are married. Secondly, I’m still trying to learn my husband’s job, what he does on a day-to-day basis to minister to his unit. Thirdly, I’m trying to learn my place in the Army.

A little about me,  I love cats, video games, Star Wars, and writing. I used to be a fun lovin’ single gal about town (I exaggerate here). However, after being content that God had called me to remain single, I never believed I’d meet such an amazing guy, on eHarmony of all places! This may sound crazy, but I knew I would marry him after the second date! We married December 21, 2013 in a whirlwind marriage and honeymoon.

First, I am learning everyday what it takes to be a wife. I pray daily I will be a godly wife that has my Heavenly Father as the center of our family. That is the most important thing, God being the center of any family no matter how small. There is a lot to learn when it comes to being a wife, and I am learning it is not an easy job!

Secondly, the Army seems to me, to be a complicated system of codes and rules. I am slowly learning what the endless Army lingo means. I tell you, they don’t call a store a store, but a PX (Post Exchange), crazy! On a more serious note, I am learning what struggles my husband deals with on a daily basis. All the stresses he carries and all the burdens that he cannot always share, even to me. One thing I have learned, is my husband will do whatever it takes to get to know each individual person in that unit. This of course, keeps him busy and away from home sometimes.

Thirdly, and to be honest, I’m still trying to figure out my place as an Army chaplain’s wife. Despite the short time I have been married, I feel that my place is to support my husband, pray for my husband, and be that steady rock my husband needs no matter how many times the Army moves us. Just like I said in my wedding vows, wherever the Army takes you, I’m going too!

I believe this is true for any wife, no matter what profession your husband is in. It is important for each wife to be a support for their husband, to pray for their husband, and to be that steady rock of encouragement. I’ve got a lot to learn, but God has blessed me with a wonderful godly man to share in that adventure!

Written By: Little Kristy

Pride and Folly In The Christian Community

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As Christians it is true that we are required to live differently than the world. What the world loves we are not to love. This can get pretty sticky when it comes to clothing, TV, music, etc. There is much debate among Christians concerning these things. Many believe that a Christian woman should only wear dresses. Some believe that you shouldn’t own a TV, while others believe that you shouldn’t listen to Christian music that has a drum beat in it. While the other side of the camp believes there is nothing wrong with these things. Whose right and who’s wrong? While my answer is simple, both are right.

You may have thought I was chickening out of making a decision, but the truth all boils down to this: what do you believe God has called you to do? First off, rules do not guarantee that you will be going to heaven. We as Christians know that the only way to heaven is to believe that we are all sinners and only Christ’s death on the cross can keep us from hell. Nothing that I do can prevent eternal damnation, only by believing Jesus died and rose again will prevent this.

With that said, wearing only skirts will not keep me safe from hell. Yet, it’s not wrong to believe women should only wear skirts or that you shouldn’t listen to Christian rock music. What you decide to do is between you and God. However, there is a danger in creating such strict rules and that is pride. There is pride in comparing yourself to other Christians, pride in making yourself look holy and righteous, and a sense of pride in keeping the riff raff out of your Christian community.

Jesus spent a lot of time dealing with the Pharisees who were all about rules and regulations. So much so, that many were unable to follow them.

Mattew 23:13 “But woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you shut up the kingdom of heaven against men; for you neither go in yourselves, nor do you allow those who are entering to go in.”

In other words, you have so many rules no one according to you can go to heaven. So many rules and regulations that people are unable not only to remember them all, but have a hard time following them.

Acts 15:10-11 “Now therefore, why do you test God by putting a yoke on the neck of the disciples which neither our fathers nor we were able to bear?”

I’ve seen many Christians that have allowed their strict rules to control them. In fact, when you look at them you’re not seeing Christ in them, but just a rule book that you are unable to follow. Many churches have become so consumed by rules they end up keeping people out and only allowing those who follow their rules in.

However, there are Christians who continue to live like the world. They don’t believe in being different from the world. When you look at them you can’t see Christ in them. In fact, you have to keep asking yourself if they are really saved or not. They fear being different from the world that they think it’s silly to worry about music, clothing, or what they watch on TV.

Romans 12:2 “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

The danger here is that they are willing to change what the Bible says just so they don’t offend people.

James 4:4 “You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.”

These churches end up starving their people by not teaching the true word of God. They open their doors to the world by omitting much of the Bible. Christians who believe you can still live like the world, yet still get into heaven are fooling themselves by not admitting that they still love the world more than God.

As Christians, we need to take a good look at our lives how are we living each day. Are we showing God’s love to this world or are we allowing pride to control us? Wearing only skirts or listening to Christian rock music won’t keep you out of hell or take you to it. Only by believing that we are all sinners that fall short of the glory of God and that the only way I can enter heaven is by believing Christ died for my sins. That’s the only way; that’s God’s way.

Romans 3:23 “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;”

Written By: Little Kristy

 

 

God’s Plan

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If I was given the choice to go back a relive my 20’s, if I was given the opportunity to redo my life then, would I do it? The answer, is no. To be honest, I hate looking back on my 20s; it was full of drama, sin, and depression. It was a time in my life when I cried more than I smiled, where I lost who I was, and when I pushed God away time and time again. You would think I would want to redo it, but I know that God was working then just as He is now.

Truth was, I wasn’t saved back then. Sure, I went to church and I would read my Bible, pray, and talk about God, but when it came to living for God, I just wasn’t willing to do that. For me, the world was my home. The world had messed up answers to my problems, but why would I want God or, the real question was, why would God want me? He did, though, and everything I was going through was what He wanted and He was watching my every step.

Romans 6:23 “For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

I did a lot of stupid things, but they could have been worse had not God been there protecting me and keeping me safe. Every drink consumed, every late night outing, every bill unpaid, God was in control. He still provided for me even when I could care less.

Every guy I gave my heart to and every time it was returned shattered, God was there showing me that He would never do that to me, that His love was greater than I will ever understand, that He would love me always. He was showing me that the hole I had in my heart wasn’t going to go away with a boyfriend, new outfit, or another religion. That hole needed to be filled with Him.

Romans 8:10 “And if Christ be in you, the body is dead because of sin; but the Spirit is life because of righteousness.”

Every tear shed was just another step closer to Him. Sure, I was crying because the world had once again left me shattered, but I see now that those tears were tears of a person who needed Him desperately. They were selfish tears, but God was using those tears to help me realize I needed Him.

Even when I so stubbornly refused to listen to Him, God, with His perfect timing, moved me to the location I needed to be, brought people in my life that I needed, and brought down the worldly roof over my head. My world crumbled only because it was a condemned property that God couldn’t use. He brought the roof down so He could rebuild that roof and it was all in His plan.

Ephesians 3:17 “That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love,”

It took me years to come to the place I am now. I struggled with my old self for years and God disciplined me and kept showing me that He had a plan for me. You know why I wouldn’t go back and redo my 20s? It’s because I wouldn’t be who I am today without those harsh lessons God taught me back then. Those were not wasted years, but much needed trials, just so I can look back today and see God’s hand during those dark years.

Today, God continues to work in me and when I sin He disciplines me still. The difference now is that I know God’s love, forgiveness, and strength. I know that He is in my heart and that hole I used to have is gone. If any of you know what I’m talking about when it comes to feeling like you’re in a dark hole, you’ll understand the relief I have not feeling that way anymore. Praise God for His plans and praise God for His love and forgiveness!

John 8:12 “Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.”

Written By: Little Kristy

Teaching Me A Lesson

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imagesGod has a sense of humor when it comes to trying to teach me a lesson. I recently posted a piece about forgiving someone and forgetting their wrong. Well, the day after I wrote that God put me through a little test about forgiveness and forgetting (Forgiveness). It was a bright light that was shined on my own area of weakness and showed me I still had a lot of work to do.

My day started well enough, then right before church someone ticked me off and that started me railing about what they did to me not only today, but my entire life. My husband had to listen to this rant the entire hour drive to church. After church, I became upset over something that my husband did that wasn’t that important. It took me till the next day to get over it. It was then that I realized, if you’re going to preach it, you gotta live it too!

If you’re a child of God, you know that the more you grow in the Word the more God will shine light on those areas of sin we struggle with.

Hebrews 12:6-7 “For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives. It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline?”

I am so thankful for a patient and slow to anger God. I don’t know how many times I’ve had to ask forgiveness for the same sins. He is very patient with me as I struggle to overcome them.

Exodus 34:6 “The LORD passed before him and proclaimed, “The LORD, the LORD, a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness,”

However, despite His patience I know that I need to be active in overcoming my sins. There have been a few things that have helped me to work on my areas of sin. I’ve been praying every day that the Lord will help me overcome them. I’ve been writing down scripture in references to my sins that way I can say the verses constantly. Finally, I’ve been admitting those sins, which is really difficult for me. I’m a person with some pride issues and it’s tough for me to admit when I’m wrong.

I’m not a perfect woman. I’m not a perfect daughter. I’m not a perfect friend. And I’m not a perfect wife. I will continue to sin until the day when I get to heaven when I’ll no longer be burdened with those sins, but bask in God’s perfectness and be made whole through Him.

Philippians 3: 20 -21 “But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly body to be like his glorious body, by the power that enables him even to subject all things to himself.”

Written By: Little Kristy

 

 

Does Our Facebook Page Glorify the Lord?

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140314-facebook-illustration-jsw-1007a_8e6c9f0c83f147f21eafd39eb07cc0d9There was a time when, in order to contact someone and tell them your latest family news, you had to pick up a phone and give them a call, send them an email, or even *gasp* write them a letter! Today, we can simply log on to Facebook and not only announce to our friends and family our news, but pretty much tell the whole world. In less than a few seconds we can post on Facebook anywhere, anytime. This is pretty cool technology. On the other hand, it is disturbing and can be harmful to our Christian testimony as well and here’s why.

I recently read the article Should Christians Be on Facebook? by R.C. Sproul, Jr. He posed some really valid questions every Christian should ask themselves when they use Facebook. His first question: “Has it become a god?” Anything can be used to replace God in our lives: food, TV, books, and yes, even Facebook. If we, (I’ve been guilty of this), spend more time on Facebook than in God’s Word, it has become a god. Also, I would go so far as to say if it provides more comfort to us than prayer, it has become a god. I John 5:21 “Little children, keep yourselves from idols. Amen.”

Another question he asked was, “Is Facebook giving me the peace of the Lord, or agitating me?” Good food for thought there. I don’t know how many times I’ve gone on Facebook and have seen a post that was inappropriate, such as a foul joke, video, or even just someone who had posted a status update with every imaginable foul word in it. Some posts have disturbed me so much that it literally ruins my peace for the day. Sure, I can hide that person’s post, but the image still remains in my head.

Not only that, but how many posts have I seen from people where they are complaining about their job, their friends, their day, and even their children. It’s like they have drawn back the curtains in their home and are letting everyone see what goes on inside. Without even trying, I can watch friends fight with each other on Facebook. I can watch marriages slowly be destroyed as spouses post about their fights. I can even see the most disturbing raw emotions of people as they post about their bad day. All of this disturbs my peace.

How many times, though, have I been guilty of this? How many times have I posted about something that has made me angry? The issue is that I’m using Facebook to solve my problems and not going to the Lord with them. In this case, not only have I used Facebook to disturb my own peace and the peace of others, but I’ve also created an idol to which I take my problems too instead of taking them to the Lord.

R.C. Sproul, Jr. poses a lot of other good questions and I encourage you to take a look at his article. One question that you and I should ask ourselves when we use Facebook is this: “What is my Christian testimony on Facebook?” Is my testimony online pleasing to the Lord or is it tarnishing His name? If you don’t think your testimony matters on Facebook, you are wrong. Your testimony is just as important online as it is at a restaurant or with your church.

What you post reflects what is in your heart. If you or I post something mean about someone else, if we post a joke or video that is foul, if we express our anger out toward someone then we are showing the world our tarnished testimony. How many times have I “liked” something that was questionable, how many times have I posted pictures of myself that were innocent, but I posted them to impress or show off to people? Even simply spending time on Facebook when I know I have work to do can be sinful.

How many people have I caused to stumble in their walk with God by what I have posted on Facebook? What harm have I caused to someone who does not know the Lord or who is a new Christian by what I have said on Facebook? Does my Facebook page promote the Lord or is it just promoting me? I can use my Facebook page to glorify the Lord or I can use it to bring all the glory to myself. That is why our testimony is important online.

This article is rather lengthy, but it has been on my heart and mind for a while. The truth is I struggled not to make this an article where I griped about others on Facebook, but an article about our Christian testimony. My struggle was coming to the realization that I am just as guilty about what I post and what I say on Facebook. It has caused me to realize that I need to watch out for my own testimony and has reminded me several times of where I have failed.

I pose this challenge to myself and to others who read this article. I’m not asking you to close down your Facebook account, but just for a month, starting now, only post things that are encouraging, loving, and just for a month, post things that aren’t about you. Let’s see if we can use our Facebook pages to show God’s glory and love and stop making it about us.

“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” (Philippians 4:8)

…and post them on Facebook!

Written By: Little Kristy